Yes, I hear you! “Please tell me, you didn’t go out like that Vicky?” I could lie, but the truth is, I did – the more worrying part is that I didn’t notice until I was already out! My children however, including Aiden, noticed instantly and were mortified! “Mum you are so embarrassing.” What could I do? It was freezing, in fact, there were flurries of snow in the air, and more embarrassingly, my ankles were probably hairier than the fluffy boots I should have put on, so there was no way I was taking those precious holey socks off! Suck it up kids, Mums are made to be embarrassing and today is just one of those days.
The reality of this slight misdemeanour is what I find more frustrating. Why am I not that Yummy Mummy who bounced back into my size 10 jeans after having a baby? (ok, maybe a size 14) Why don’t I leap out of bed in the morning radiating beauty? (Yes, I Know, your beauty is within!) Why don’t I have the time to go to the gym, do my hair and apply my perfect Kylie Jenner make up before I leave the house? (Um, probably because I don’t own any, but that’s not the point!)
I’m amazed at how our priorities change throughout our lives. Pre-children, I would spend hours in front of the mirror, doing my hair and makeup and I would love going shopping each week for a new outfit to wear at the weekend. I would never wear the same outfit twice if I was with the same group of friends and our conversations would revolve around clothes, brands and makeup. Now, the thought of shopping sends shivers down my spine – after years of torturous shopping trips with a screaming child on sensory overload, that delightful baby managed to crush any ounce of joy out of ever walking into a shop again – And he has the cheek to call me embarrassing! I wish I had videoed his antics so he could see just what he put me through in his younger days!
Now a days, I would just be grateful for one outfit to wear out at the weekend that I haven’t bought from that well-known boutique Georgai – otherwise known as Asda- George! And I’m sure many of you reading this are thinking – I would just love to go out at the weekend, and I don’t care what I wear! My children are older now and I am lucky enough to have wonderful parents who make excellent babysitters.
The point is, life is so busy that we put ourselves right at the very bottom of the priority list and this is OK for a short period of time, but it is not sustainable forever. Of course, our priorities change – we have to keep another or multiple little humans alive. This is a massive responsibility, but you also have to look after yourself too. Our children need a healthy and confident Mummy or Daddy to care for them.
We all have our insecurities and we all aspire to be something we’re not. We don’t need to be that perfect Yummy Mummy, but we do need to take time out for ourselves. Even if you can’t go out on a weekend ‘yet’ – your time will come. Have a bath, do your hair, put on your best Georgai outfit and invite your friends’ round for a well-deserved glass of wine and adult chatter.
Children will take take take thats what children do! Children with additional needs will take even more! You need to remember who you are, you need to feel confident and healthy so you need to take the time to recharge your batteries and reboot your system – You can’t give what you hav’nt got!
How do you know when it’s time to recharge? When you wear socks with your flipflops out in public!